KashiaExplores: Tales of Discovery

Dear Younger Me, ( 13- 16 years old)

Right now, you’re probably preoccupied with a lot of things—what others think of you, how to be liked, and whether you’re even likable. I know you’re often consumed by thoughts about your low self-esteem, wondering how it could possibly get any lower.

But here’s what I want you to do: go beyond yourself. Step outside of those self-limiting thoughts and focus on others. Look around and see what others are going through, why they might be suffering. The size of your thighs isn’t going to save the world. But if you can rise above your self-doubt, you’ll start to see so much more. Your world will expand, and your self-esteem won’t matter so much anymore. Why? Because you’ll stop filling your mind with thoughts that shrink your sense of self.

As a remedy for what you’re feeling, I want you to take on a few challenges. First, join a volunteer organization, like a hospice that cares for cancer patients. Provide support, engage in meaningful conversations, and be there for others in their time of need.

Second, join a sailing club. Learn how to set the sail, work with a team, give commands, and follow them. These experiences will teach you the importance of trust, respect, and mutual understanding.

Third, create a project that lasts three to six months. Initiate a group to help with a cause you care about, whether it’s supporting girls battling anorexia or creating a safe and nurturing environment for kids growing up in abusive households. The choice is yours, but it has to be something that helps others.

I hope these challenges serve you well and help you realize that there is so much pain and suffering in the world. You’re already in the most beautiful shape and size, and there are higher purposes and more meaningful thoughts waiting for you.

Take care,
Your 39-Year-Old Self